I Have Two Homes

The 10 Best Things About Tulsa
1. CHEAP Real Estate
2. QT
3. Running into someone you know no matter where you go
4. Swan Lake
5. Braum's Market
6. Oil Mansions
7. Downtown
8. Lunch with the "gramps" at ABears
9. Rainy nights
10. It will always be home

 The 10 Best Things About DC

1. The Metro
2. The feeling you  get standing in the middle of the National Mall
3. Kogod Courtyard
4. Ben’s Chili Bowl
5. The smoothies in the upstairs corner of Union Station
6. Parades
7. Kogod Corner Market NW E & New Jersey
8. The dollhouse in the Museum of American History
9. Cleveland Park
10. That my best DC friend's last name is Love ... seriously, it is!



This really doesn't seem like that long ago. 

Last week maybe? 

and now ...

Congratulations my beautiful boy! 



My Own Definition of Love

Some say love requires commitment.  I think it is quite the opposite.

Love is a fluid choice; one you make an infinite number of times – though if you are truly blessed it is always the same person.

I have loved someone enough to allow them to walk away even though I possessed the power to say “don’t” … or “stay” … or other sincere words like and “love” and “need” … how very badly I needed him to make me feel safe; to continue to be the only person I ever trusted to protect me.  But in that moment love meant goodbye.  Ironically, I have chosen to love the same way many times over.  And that is ok because love is not about what you need or they need; or what is right or wrong.

It is loving someone so much that in the end, just having been loved is enough. To have shared the moments; to have felt their heartbeat at your cheek at the exact moment in your life when you needed to feel life; to share the same breath with him when you couldn’t breathe alone; to take all of him deeply in and with the exhale say goodbye.